Mothers have the uncanny ability to help us understand how much we would miss them if they were not around to do those typical kinds of “Mommy/Mom/Mother” things they are so well versed in and good at doing.
They simply say to us: You may not see it now, but you will miss me when I am gone…
Oddly, the average person hears just the words that are uttered when this phrase is repeatedly said by our mothers over the years; and we miss the actual meaning behind the words.
At least the meaning may not be clearly understood by many of us until…our mothers are gone forever and we start missing them.
Let’s be honest, when our mothers are still around us we sometimes tune out their reminders about different things because they sound too much like nagging…
We may try to keep the lid on our true feelings about certain situations because our mothers’ clarifying questions sound too much like prying into our business…
Busy schedules that swallow up priceless chunks of time may become the consistent excuse used when our mothers reach out to us to visit or talk with us to find out what new and exciting things are going on in our younger lives…
Organizational management (in other words, a mother’s share of the household responsibilities) is generally done so seamlessly and most times without a hitch that we dare to sometimes take for granted just how challenging, rigorous, and exhausting this can be for our mothers…we just blink and the longed-for meal, school supply, outfit, costume, or car ride materializes right before our very eyes. All of the time.
Yet, when our mothers are no longer around us we are left with a void the size of a moon crater; left to figure and work these things out for ourselves.
It is then that we see how much we miss our mothers because they are gone…
For those of us whose mothers are no longer physically with us, we now have the social responsibility to teach our daughters, nieces, mentees, and others just how important it is to accept, understand, and appreciate a mother’s “nagging, prying, questioning, and managerial” love and interest in her children.
And, for those of us whose mothers are still alive and well, that same social responsibility is shared; coupled with an obligation to transparently model for onlookers how to co-exist with mothers, and how to enjoy healthy and rich mother-daughter, aunt-niece, mentor-mentee, and other relationships.
This way we can help those we're leading see the meaning behind the words clearly.
Written in loving tribute to my mother and mother-in-law…Gertrude Little Pearson & Norma Louise Biggs…who both transitioned from their lives with us in 2007 (Norma in June and Gertrude in October)…HAPPY MOTHER’S DAY and thank you both for sharing the meaning behind the words with your families…We love you...
Sharon M. Biggs, M.A., is a wife, mother, and 21st Century educational leader & school district administrator who serves as Co-Chair & President of Lifeline Foundation, Inc. This 24-year educator is also Founder, Editor, and Chief Writer of LifelineExtensions.blog. View other published works at http://www.examiner.com/. Contact Sharon directly for more information: smbiggs@mylifelinefoundation.org.
"Children are the globe's most precious commodity." (Terence H. Biggs, Jr. ~ 2009)
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